How Well Do You Care for Yourself During Difficult Times?
We all go through challenging times at various points in life—whether it’s a health crisis, the end of a relationship, job loss, financial difficulties or the death of a loved one. To cope with such difficult times, self-care is vital but, too often, we are hard on ourselves instead. Answer these true/false questions to discover how well you support yourself during difficult times.
True__ False__ 1. Although it doesn’t really help, when I’m facing something difficult, I often self-soothe by over-indulging in food and alcohol.
True__ False__ 2. During tough times, I get caught up in “putting out fires,” and self-care goes out the window.
True__ False__ 3. It’s easy for me to mentally spin out of control with worry and worst-case scenario thinking.
True__ False__ 4. I can’t face my friends and family when things aren’t going well; I tend to isolate.
True__ False__ 5. Shame and blame take over when I’m facing a difficult situation; I either feel it’s my fault or someone else’s.
True__ False__ 6. During hard times, I get scared and feel immobilized and depressed.
True__ False__ 7. I can’t understand why bad things happen to good people; it’s not fair.
True__ False__ 8. In the midst of bad times, I lose perspective and have a hard time trusting that things will get better.
True__ False__ 1. No matter what’s going on, I’m committed to staying on track with my self-care routines.
True__ False__ 2. Caring for myself includes asking for and receiving support from people who love and care about me.
True__ False__ 3. I share my feelings and what’s going on with people I trust.
True__ False__ 4. I have tools to help keep myself positively focused.
True__ False__ 5. No matter how intense the situation, I take the time to do things that make me feel better, such as working out, getting a massage, spending time in nature.
True__ False__ 6. I surround myself with supportive people and uplifting materials.
True__ False__ 7. When times are tough, I look for any deeper or broader meaning behind the outer circumstances. That helps me keep the situation in perspective and even use it for my own psychological growth.
True__ False__ 8. I trust myself to be able to handle whatever comes my way.
If you answered true more often in Set 1 and false more often in Set 2, you may wish to get more support around caring for yourself. Please call if you’d like assistance in exploring this further.
Dr. Bill Duke is the founder and principal treatment provider at Awakening Recovery Center. Awakening Recovery Center provides a variety of intensive outpatient recovery and rehabilitation treatment programs, including alcohol treatment and state licensed DUI treatment programs in Jacksonville, Florida.